3 Key Takeaways From Paris Hilton’s Documentary
The much talked about Paris Hilton documentary, Youtube Original’s “This is Paris” has crossed 10 million views on youtube. Paris is the owner of a successful beauty brand, a model and a DJ.
Despite having so many titles in her stride, she is far from happy in the documentary.
The documentary is a blow to women’s expectation of her work.
It unfolds all the misconceptions of being rich and famous. It points out the work-family balance of women and what the world expects of a woman.
It is not anything you could expect, yet it gives all answers. For young teenagers, it’s all you need to see before building her dreams. It discloses the facets of “ lust”, “fame” and “tragedy”.
1. The Race for Making Money Is Never-Ending
Paris said in her documentary “When she was a teenager I always wanted to make a 100million, I was like when I do that I am gonna be happy.”
Now that she has already made 100 million she wants to make a billion.
“I think once you do your goal you just wanna keep going more and more and then I’ll be happy,” she said teary-eyed and then smirked.
And later continued to say “I am happy ….sometimes, but it is lonely.” When she said ‘sometimes’, it was heart-wrenching. You could see the guilt in her eyes and all that she wants is to be happy.
Money is one of the driving force to do something besides passion. They both can make you and break you.
Being financially able to pay your bills and live a comfortable life is how life works. However, going all crazy to just make money is not what you want.
Money cannot guarantee happiness.
Setting goals is healthy but working towards it and neglecting every aspect of life is a stupidity. Blinding yourself from any distraction and just focussing on a single goal can be daunting.
You might achieve your goal someday but will have forgotten to live your life.
Time is worth more than money.
A study at the University of Pennsylvania by Cassie Mogilner and Michael Norton confirmed that focusing on time leads to greater happiness than focusing on money.
Happiness may be less contingent on the sheer amount of time and money and more on how people both think about and choose to spend them.
Moreover, people enjoy greater happiness from spending money on others rather than themselves and from acquiring experiences instead of possessions.
Thus, putting our heart on a huge amount of money will not bring us happiness. The race of acquiring possessions, to be the best always is never going to bring peace in your life. There is always going to be someone better than you.
2. A Trauma Can Affect Your Whole Life
Paris went through trauma when she was in an ‘emotional rehabilitation centre’. She recalled the dark days spent in the rehabilitation.
Earlier, she had been in similar centres where she used to run away. The last one she described as a hell she is still living every night. Paris described the impacts of the trauma has made her more closed and reserved. She never really open up to people anymore.
One of Paris’s co-mate at the centre said:
“The lines of tough love and abuse are so blurred that it's really easy to not see the signs of abuse ahead of time in a relationship.”
Her word will resonate well with survivors of trauma. Often trauma leaves a deep impact on the minds. It is hard to differentiate between “the pangs of the dark” and “the actual reality”.
A moment of wrong can become a lifelong trauma and ruin a whole life. Studies over the years have made these effects quite clear.
Past trauma may have severe impacts on your future health. Early childhood trauma is a risk factor for almost everything, from adult depression to PTSD and most psychiatric disorders, as well as a host of medical problems, including cardiovascular problems such as heart attack and stroke, cancer, and obesity.
Traumatic incidences also affect how a child’s brain develops.
Dr Martin Teicher and his colleagues at McLean Hospital, Harvard Medical School and Northeastern University, used magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) technology to identify measured changes in brain structure among young adults who had experienced childhood abuse or neglect.
People with history fo trauma are more prone to substance abuse because they have harder urge to control and take a rational decision.
Parents are usually very calculative in deciding what's right for their child. But often they overstep their boundaries in an urge to control their children’s life.
There is another side of parenting as well where they are unaware of the changes in their kid's life; which is a much bigger problem.
Being aware of trauma and opening up to someone is one of the major steps in tackling trauma. However, most people do not want to recall their incidence to doctors. In such cases, a friend or survivor who went through similar rollercoaster can help.
3. That Influencer’s Life May Not Be True
Paris is the inventor of the paparazzi culture. She is the one who brought selfie to the limelight. The concept of Influencer was unknowingly started by her.
But, the bottom line is that regrets it. She says that she didn’t know where it would lead to.
“When I look around my life, it’s like a cartoon. I don’t know, I created this fantasy world cartoon. And I am forever stuck with it.”
These are words from the owner of one of the most successful beauty brand.
“I don’t know who I am sometimes.” — Paris
We are obsessed with celebrity lifestyle when they themselves want to get rid of it. Instagram photos might be making you conscious of your own self.
‘Fame’, ‘wealth’ and ‘looks’ won't ever satisfy you. They never were the core of life, and never will be. Unless you make a mission you rely on them to ruin your life.
“I was so obsessed with looking perfect on the outside. That’s why I always had to project basically what the public wants.” — Paris
Spending long hours on social media makes us believe what we see to be true. We try emulating this in our lives. Oblivious of the broken person behind that beautiful face.
“Everyone you meet is fighting their own battle you know nothing about.”
The result of obsessing over someone's life through hours and hours of scrolling results in low self-esteem and worth. We need to stop this.
Try using apps to monitor time spent on social media. It will keep you sane. Virtual reality will never help you attain emotional stability and mental peace. A lot that there is, is based on lies. Learn to see beyond lies.
“This is Paris” left deep messages for us to grasp from the life of Paris Hilton, whom the world considers successful. Instead of stumbling and learning later, better take control of your life now.